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Scattering of Ashes


I have heard a bit of talk lately about scattering of ashes. There was even some talk about it on Gogglebox quite a while back. That show is my guilty pleasure and one of the only shows on television I really want to watch. Adam was telling Symon that he wanted his ashes spread on the MCG. He even told Symon that he should put his ashes in his pocket and just let them out on the ‘G’ while on a MCG tour. I love that he knows what he wants done with his ashes and that he had thought out how to do it. There are a few issues with his plan, however, and not sure how well Symon or anyone would be able to pull this plan off.

It’s not as easy as just deciding where you want your loved ones ashes scattered. There are all sorts of things that need to be taken into consideration. Some places it is illegal to scatter human ashes. For example in the Royal Botanical Gardens in Melbourne it is strictly prohibited. At Hobsons Bay City Council, they expressly permit the scattering of ashes on land owned or managed by council. So you would really need to check with the appropriate council where you wanted to scatter the ashes.

There are a lot of companies that will take you out on their boat and you can scatter your loved ones ashes at sea.

I personally haven’t scattered any ashes or been to a ceremony that has done so, but I know that when my Grandmother passes away she wants to have her ashes scattered with the ashes of my Grandfather at Rye beach where they spent (and a lot of our family spent) many summer holidays and where many wonderful memories were made. I love the idea and have known about it for as long as I can remember, my grandfather died more than 30 years ago and it was something that has always been openly discussed.

There are a lot of interesting and informative sites online discussing it, and they have many great tips and ideas for people who are planning to do this.  Numerous sites mention that the ashes are not like they are on television they are not this lovely soft white powder that will be easily blown away but they have bone fragments and are nothing like campfire  ash.  They mention that you should be very aware of what the weather is doing that no one wants to be standing the wrong way in the wind when ashes are being scattered.

It’s something that you would really want to research and make sure nothing is forgotten. Maybe take some photos so that if people who are not able to attend have a point of reference if they wanted to visit the site on an important anniversary.

Another issue, is how much of the ashes get scattered? I guess it depends if the family are all in agreement about the scattering of ashes. Some people may want to keep some of the ashes. Some companies make jewellery from loved ones ashes so that you can have them with you at all times. There are a lot of things to consider with the scattering of ashes and in general when there are family members to be considered and loves ones wishes to adhere to.

Have you scattered ashes of a loved one? Would you consider having your ashes scattered?



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Mel and Cat


Mel and Cat were married at the Royal Botanical Gardens on a lovely Saturday in December. What an amazing wedding it was. I had never conducted a wedding at the Botanical Gardens before, it is a stunning place, but add some beautiful umbrellas, some white chairs and a white carpet to the mix and it becomes breathtaking.  They had the most amazing taxi bring them both to the gardens and they walked down to the ceremony site together to Sia’s ‘Day too Soon’.  These stunning ladies walked down the white carpet hand in hand to exchange their vows in front of about 70 of their family and friends.

As a couple, Mel and Cat have travelled the world, having lived together in Canada for a year. Moving to the opposite side of the globe with your partner, being the only other person you know is a true test of a relationship – whether it be saving the other from a random squirrel attack in Stanley Park, or taking an ambulance ride to the Emergency room after a colorful night out in Palm Springs – Mel and Cat are always there for one other, no matter how silly or embarrassing the situation might be. They have made many wonderful memories together, from their first date at the East Brunswick Club hotel, walking over the Brooklyn Bridge on a Summer evening in New York, to having their first white Christmas together in Vancouver. Along with travel, they love nothing more than enjoying a good drink together at their much-loved pubs with friends and family, or at home with one another listening to their favourite records.

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When I asked Mel and Cat about some of the stand out attributes that they saw in each other it ‘s clear just how in love that they are. Mel said that she loves Cat’s kind nature, the fact that she is smarter than anyone she has ever met and beautiful inside and out. Cat loves Mel’s sense of humour, her passionate spirit, and is in awe of how talented Mel is. They spend a lot of time making each other laugh. Cat makes Mel laugh with her never ending popular culture references and fear of just about everything. Mel has a habit of making funny phrases that sound like celebrities’ names, she calls Cat her Fiancee Knowles. When Mel proposed to Cat they were at the Midsumma carnival, after Cat said yes, Mel went on the jumping castle and Cat stayed and drank beers and ate dip with her friend Heidi.

 Mel and Cat didn’t share their vows with me before the ceremony, they are one of the first couples that haven’t given me a look at them or asked for my help when writing them, so the vows were  new to me.  They were so lovely and to hear them for the first time that they exchanged them was quite an emotional experience.  Cat chose to borrow words from Emily Bronte in her vows to Mel saying “whatever our souls are made of, mine and yours are the same”
One thing that I really loved about doing this wedding, was that it was for them and just about love. Love and their promises to each other. No other reason. We all know that it wasn’t about legalities, (It’s probably best that I don’t even start on this topic.) it was about their love and it was just truly beautiful. Such a beautiful couple and such a beautiful love that they share.
I’m fully aware of how lucky I am, I get to know these wonderful people in such a relatively short amount of time. I get to share one of the most awesome experiences of their lives with them, meet their amazing families, and friends.  What other job to you get to reassure a bride that the taxi running late is not a big deal that the show can’t go on without them, scavenge through plants and bushes for well hidden power sources with lovely people you met just minutes before, to watching a little 4 year old sing his ABC’s into the PA system and wow the guests after the ceremony?
A huge shout out to Jean-Luc Syndikas for the use of the photos from Mel and Cat’s stunning day.  What a perfect guy to photograph such a beautiful day. (He is just one of the nicest guys you will ever have  the pleasure of meeting!) Check out some more of his work on his facebook page here or you can shoot him an email at jlsyndikas@gmail.com

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