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Things that guests hate at a wedding


I know that I am always saying that your wedding is all about you and it should reflect what you want. It’s true it is your day and it should be what you want it to be. Just for a moment though I am going to chat about the things that guests hate at a wedding. It’s not to say that you can’t do what you want and have these things as part of your day but just they are just some things that I have heard or read about people complaining and therefore something to consider.


Not knowing where they are going

I know with this day and age people have GPS and they have their google maps and their phone, but even then sometimes these things can be unclear. If you are having your reception in a building this doesn’t apply so much. Even so, if a guest can quite easily find where they are supposed to be, lack of signage or anything to direct them can cause panic. If you are getting married in a garden or somewhere that is open to the public, provide a map or have someone near the entrance so that your guests know where to go. It is a great way to stop people becoming part of the processional too, you can have someone who can tell people to wait if the bride has already arrived. This is a great job for a wedding planner if you are having one too.


Going home hungry

This is a big one. Now not for one moment am I saying that you need to feed people until they are sick and if you are choosing to have just a cake and champagne affair there is nothing wrong with that, but don’t do it at dinner or lunch time. If you are planning just to have snacks or cheese and crackers, make sure that it is timed appropriately. Most people wont eat lunch or dinner before going to a wedding function if it is expected to go over lunch or dinner. If someone has their company requested for an afternoon tea, they will not be expecting a main meal. It’s then their own issue if they don’t eat lunch before they arrive. It’s just sad to hear that people say that they went to the McDonalds drive through after a wedding dinner as they were still hungry, especially when you know that the couple have spent a fortune on their venue and the meal for all of their guests. I know that I attended a wedding about 3 years ago at a beautiful function centre. I don’t remember what my meal was, but I remember it was lovely and I left feeling full and content. It isn’t that often that you remember exactly what you ate a bit down the track, but you do remember the wedding where the food was terrible and you had to make yourself some toast when you got home because you were so ravenous. Unless it is something that is really original and something that was brilliant. (see the blog about Courtney and Tim’s wedding, now that was some memorable food!)


A badly spent budget

This ties in with the last one I guess. If you have spent thousands of dollars on the centrepieces for the tables that people are sitting at, but they only have 3 small portions of finger food. They may feel that the decorations were lovely but that they went home hungry. People won’t remember what they ate but they will remember if the food was good and filling. People will only remember that it was good, maybe skip some of the more expensive things that are overlooked and make sure people have enough to eat.  It isn’t always about the expensive sit down meal, but thinking of ways to get the best amount of quality for your budget.  When I had my wedding I decided that I wanted a sit down meal over finger food. That meant that money had to come from somewhere. We could have invited double the amount of people to our wedding if we had a finger food option, but I wanted better food for less people.  Some of the loveliest weddings that I have been to have had some outside the box options for catering. Marika and Joel had some amazing tapas served at their wedding and then had people come in and cook up huge delicious serves of paella.


A reception that takes place HOURS after the ceremony

Again, I’m always one for using a professional photography, in the end that is one of the only things that you have left of your day, but a good photographer shouldn’t need numerous hours between the ceremony and the reception, if you want all kinds of fancy photography, in different locations maybe think about a first look photo shoot or talk to your photographer about the options on what you can fit into the time frame. One wedding that I attended had 3-4 hours in between the wedding and the ceremony. It is just very difficult to expect people to hang around or spend their time drinking at a pub close by, especially if they are from out of town and not too sure where to go or what to do.  A lot of the time your guests are dressed up and not really wanting to go and do a spot of shopping between.


Being forced or pressured to dancing

This is something that I personally hate. I love watching the couple do their first dance together and understand that there are a lot of people who love to dance. That is wonderful. It’s when the MC or other guests at the wedding try to make you dance that it really makes me cross. I’m not against dancing and sometimes will love to get up and have a dance, but when the music is pumped so loud that you can’t speak to any of the other guests, this is really annoying as a guest.


Having no place to sit

When it comes to your reception, even if you are having a finger food type affair, most people want to be able to sit so they can chat and enjoy other peoples company, it is difficult if there are a very limited number of chairs as most people will do the right thing and leave them for elderly guests or guests with special needs. The only other thing than having no where to sit is having to sit near people that you don’t get along with and that is a topic for a whole different blog post.

What is something that you really hate when attending a wedding?


A very big thank you to Kirralee for the use of her stunning photos on the blog this week. Check out more of her work on her blog here and you can find her on facebook here.


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Allergies and dietary requirements at your wedding


With all of the things that people are allergic to nowadays and so many people choosing to be vegetarian or vegan, it is something that you need to be mindful of when planning meals at your wedding. It is something that you need to talk to your venue about in advance and make sure that you put the option for your guests to advise you of any dietary requirements on your RSVP cards (you can read my blog about RSVP cards here). This will allow you to have plenty of time to tell your reception venue or catering company of any changes they may need to make to their dishes.

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This is a very important factor to remember, as it may not be something that you initially think about especially if you are not allergic to anything yourself or are not vegetarian or vegan. I think that most people remember the vegetarian and vegan options, but a lot of the time we forget about those who are gluten or lactose intolerant, or something similar. Or if one of your guests has a nut allergy, it is important for the caterers to know that they can’t eat them or it could cause much distress. There would be nothing worse than having to call an ambulance because of a guest being ill from the food. These are things that the venue will most likely have experienced and as much as you might have no idea what is involved in solving such an issue, people who deal with food for a living will be able to sort out.

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I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone being a guest at the wedding and not being able to eat their meal because of allergies. Firstly, because you have paid for the meal and secondly you really don’t want people to have to go through a fast food drive-through on the way home from your wedding!

One idea is to have a tick box on your RSVP card, so that people can tick what they need. Some people prefer to have a section for people to write their dietary requirements in, but do beware that people may also just put what they don’t like on that line too. You may receive responses like ‘I don’t like garlic’. Answers like this do not indicate necessary dietary requirements and is merely a preference. It is up to you if you take any of that on board, but you probably won’t be able to please everyone if you do. It is also up to you as to how far you want to take this matter. If one or two of your guests suffer from coeliac disease, you might want to check with the venue if they can make the hors d’oeuvres that are gluten free and maybe depending on what sort of wedding cake you are having, you could organise to have a tier of the cake made gluten free. Or have some cupcakes and have some of them especially for people who cannot eat gluten, this could also work for guests who are vegan. It isn’t just the main meal that you need to think about. It is all of the other food components of the day too. Being thoughtful in this matter will not only mean that all of your guests and their needs catered for, it will also make them feel special and considered on the day.

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Thanks to Lauren at Purely Taken. Photography for the lovely shots for this weeks blog, check out her website here and her facebook page here.

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