Most of us would have seen on Facebook or instagram by now this fun guest list manager. Its quite funny and a good idea to have a laugh. It is a good way to remind yourself too that it is your day and you’re (most likely) paying the bill.
Will they make your wedding more fun is an interesting part of this chart for me, really your wedding is about you and your partner, and you should have the people around you that mean a lot to you, it’s your wedding not a hens or bucks day. Maybe it should say something like, will it be special to have them with you on the day? Or do you want them there to see you and your partner exchange promises? I know that this chart is mainly for a laugh but some of the points have merit, or at least give you something to think about. The part about would normally buy dinner for them, maybe a strange question, but it is something to think about would you have dinner out with them, or your work friends maybe not necessarily do you see them out of work, because there are a few people at my work that I would be happy to spend time with out of work, but I generally just don’t have time, compared with hell no, please don’t let them be going to the same function as me type people that you work with.
I agree to an extent that if you parents are paying for some of the wedding they do get to have at least a small number of guests that they want added to the list. I think though that they should get to have some say, but really again it is your day. If there is someone that you really don’t want there maybe you can compromise. My mother in law wanted one of her longest friends at my husband and our wedding, but the friend had previously not been the nicest to my husband. We made sure that she wasn’t invited but my mother in law still had her two other best friends and partners invited on the day, we only had 42 guests, and we paid for the vast majority of the day ourselves so we really weren’t keen on having anyone we didn’t like there.
I’ve blogged before about wedding numbers and some of the other issues that you have with deciding on who to invite to your wedding. I don’t think it is really as cut and dry as this chart suggests. There are always some people on the list that you have to invite, and there are people that you invite knowing that they will not be able to make it on the day.
What do you think? Do you think that it can be as cut and dry and the chart suggests? What were some of the deciding factors that helped you decide if someone made your guest list or not?
A large number of people that I speak to are not too fond of the ‘traditional’ Hens and Bucks nights. I don’t blame them. You have all heard stories about Bucks and Hens nights that have gone horribly wrong and this make everyone nervous. Grooms ending up on the other side of the state after being handcuffed to the inside a train. The Groom and best man having their eyebrows shaved off. Or even worse, breaking an arm or leg and being in plaster for the wedding day! All horror stories, but I’m sure that you all know at least one person who has been a part of a similar story.
Adult entertainment evenings make most people cringe. I have been invited to Hens party’s that have seemed so seedy, I would rather have scrubbed my shower with a toothbrush than attend! Not all Hens and Bucks need to be like this. In my opinion, this should be a time spent with your close friends before your big day. It should, like all things that go along with your wedding, reflect your personality. It should be something fun that will provide you with wonderful memories with your friends. It may be a winery tour, golf day, paint ball adventure, laser tag, day spa afternoon, a weekend in a beach house with spectacular views. It really doesn’t have to be something that makes your friends or partner cringe. It should be something that you want to do, but everyone can enjoy.
Do think about the people that you want there too. You may want to have a weekend at the beach house with the day spa as well. Keep in mind that not everyone that you invite can afford to do all of the things that you want to do. Make it easy for them to join in some of the activity so that they do not have to miss out if they cannot afford to do all the things that you are doing. Perhaps arrange a lovely dinner or brunch if some guests can only commit to some of the time required. For example, If you are having a winery tour and people can’t make the whole thing, let them know which winery you are finishing at so they can meet you there for a meal. Sometimes not everyone can walk the 18 holes of golf but may want to catch up for a beer and bbq in the evening.
Some people would also prefer not to make this time strictly a girls or guys time of the wedding celebrations. You can choose to have a day where you have all of your friends together doing something fun. It doesn’t have to be as structured as a traditional Bucks or Hens. Why not spend a day at the local bowls club, or hire a houseboat with a stack of your friends.
Do you have any suggestions or did you or one of your friends have a Hens or Bucks day that was just something different and fantastic fun?
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