I have heard a bit of talk lately about scattering of ashes. There was even some talk about it on Gogglebox quite a while back. That show is my guilty pleasure and one of the only shows on television I really want to watch. Adam was telling Symon that he wanted his ashes spread on the MCG. He even told Symon that he should put his ashes in his pocket and just let them out on the ‘G’ while on a MCG tour. I love that he knows what he wants done with his ashes and that he had thought out how to do it. There are a few issues with his plan, however, and not sure how well Symon or anyone would be able to pull this plan off.
It’s not as easy as just deciding where you want your loved ones ashes scattered. There are all sorts of things that need to be taken into consideration. Some places it is illegal to scatter human ashes. For example in the Royal Botanical Gardens in Melbourne it is strictly prohibited. At Hobsons Bay City Council, they expressly permit the scattering of ashes on land owned or managed by council. So you would really need to check with the appropriate council where you wanted to scatter the ashes.
There are a lot of companies that will take you out on their boat and you can scatter your loved ones ashes at sea.
I personally haven’t scattered any ashes or been to a ceremony that has done so, but I know that when my Grandmother passes away she wants to have her ashes scattered with the ashes of my Grandfather at Rye beach where they spent (and a lot of our family spent) many summer holidays and where many wonderful memories were made. I love the idea and have known about it for as long as I can remember, my grandfather died more than 30 years ago and it was something that has always been openly discussed.
There are a lot of interesting and informative sites online discussing it, and they have many great tips and ideas for people who are planning to do this. Numerous sites mention that the ashes are not like they are on television they are not this lovely soft white powder that will be easily blown away but they have bone fragments and are nothing like campfire ash. They mention that you should be very aware of what the weather is doing that no one wants to be standing the wrong way in the wind when ashes are being scattered.
It’s something that you would really want to research and make sure nothing is forgotten. Maybe take some photos so that if people who are not able to attend have a point of reference if they wanted to visit the site on an important anniversary.
Another issue, is how much of the ashes get scattered? I guess it depends if the family are all in agreement about the scattering of ashes. Some people may want to keep some of the ashes. Some companies make jewellery from loved ones ashes so that you can have them with you at all times. There are a lot of things to consider with the scattering of ashes and in general when there are family members to be considered and loves ones wishes to adhere to.
Have you scattered ashes of a loved one? Would you consider having your ashes scattered?
Suzy and Matt had their wedding at Zealandia: The Karori Sanctuary Experience. Which is a beautiful wildlife sanctuary just outside of Wellington, in New Zealand. They were officially married on the Wednesday before their wedding day, due to me being an Australian Civil Celebrant I wasn’t able to officially marry them. So they had a small legal ceremony with their families present a few days before and got all of the legal stuff done and out of the way. I have known both Suzy and Matt for about 6 years and knew them before they became a couple so they thought that it was only fitting that I should be the one that did their wedding ceremony. I was honoured when they asked me and thought they may change their mind once they knew that they would have to get all of the legalities done by someone else, and that it might just be too much trouble, but they were determined that I would be the one to do their ceremony, and I am so glad that they did. I had a wonderful time, and felt so happy to be a part of their day, again I cannot explain how lovely it is for me to help two people that I know quite well, exchange promises in front of all of their family and friends.
They met at their workplace through their mutual love of Photography and their love of music. Matt had asked Suzy to teach him to play some songs on the guitar. Suzy remembers with amusement Matt declaring his interest during and Arnold Schwarzenegger movie one night, She also recalls spending their first date in an ER because she had dislocated her shoulder whilst removing a piece of clothing. That same night Matt got food poisoning from the dinner he ate at the pub earlier in the evening and spent the whole night dashing to the bathroom. It did look suspicious when they both called into work sick the next day. Suzy remembers them going to Wellington for their first holiday together. She remembers injuring her back and how Matt came to the hospital everyday to sit with her and entertain her as soon as the hospital opened and stayed until they kicked him out. Matt also remembers this time and knew that this was when he was in love with Suzy, instead of seeing the beautiful sights of New Zealand, he was sitting by her side, helping her use a bed pan, and he really didn’t mind.
The wedding was on a lovely Wellington day in March, Suzy and her 4 beautiful attendants all arrived on a lovely little boat and made their way to the beautiful little section of the park where the ceremony was being held. Matt and his 5 groomsmen waited patiently for their arrival. I will never forget the moment that Matt got to see Suzy for the first time. She looked fantastic in her 40’s inspired dress with her beautiful hair style and a stunning birdcage veil.
After the ceremony the 70 ish guests were treated to drinks and canapés by the lake and could take a scenic boat ride down the lake while the newly married couple were off having their photographs taken. Shortly after all of the guests were ushered into the beautiful Rata Cafe that was all set up with some of the most lovely table decorations that you have seen. They had a lovely little cake that matched the wildlife theme of the day and so many little cupcakes so that those who wanted to eat cake could do so.
It was a wonderful evening full of dancing and great conversation, with guests from all over the world. I don’t think that I have been to a wedding for a long time that had so many people from so many different countries in the one place. I met some truly wonderful people, that were so lovely. In an amazing, wonderful country that I already want to go back to again.
Thank-you to Amy Schultz for the stunning photos from Matt and Suzy’s wonderful day. Check out her website here
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for her page. If you are in Wellington, check out Zealandia it is a beautiful place. You can look at their website here