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Ceremony only wedding

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I have read a little bit about ‘Ceremony Only’ weddings recently. This is different to having a guest list for those coming to both the reception and ceremony and then invitations for ceremony only. (Blog about this coming soon) Ceremony Only weddings are where a couple have just the ceremony and then everything is over. There is no reception. Nothing else afterwards. I haven’t actually conducted one of these myself but am really interested in some of the reasoning behind why people do it. I understand that weddings are expensive and I totally understand that it should be about the actual promises made to one another. I think that this is really what the whole thing is about. I’m not sure how I would feel about a ceremony only wedding myself. I think it depends on the reasoning why you are choosing to have just a ceremony only. I also wonder if some guests might think that you are having some sort of reception later but they are just not invited.

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Weddings can cost a lot of money. This isn’t news to anyone. I’m not sure, however, if having a ceremony only wedding is the answer to the cost issue. Some people believe that you ‘owe’ it to your guests to feed them after they witness you exchange your vows. What nonsense. How terrible, and what sort of friends do you have if they feel you owe them something for attending? Receptions can get totally out of control and some people are not interested in a big sit down meal event. It’s totally up to the individual. As a guest I wouldn’t be upset if a couple didn’t have a reception, though I think after all the excitement and the emotion of it all it’s nice to celebrate. I think this is the part of the whole ceremony only wedding that I can’t get past. I love a wedding and love the love that people feel for the couple. It just seems odd to me to have the ceremony and not have some time with all these people afterwards.

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I’m not saying that people shouldn’t do this if that is what they really want. I’m all for your day, your way, but I’ve been to some truly amazing weddings. My friends got married in their back yard, in their jeans, with some caterers brought in to cater some dinner and it was a lovely, intimate, beautiful wedding. No one there for a moment thought that it should have been done any other way.  I think the idea of a sunset wedding with champagne and cheese could be a perfect wedding for the right people too.

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Celebrating can cost as little or as much as you want. What is to stop people having just some cheese, crackers and champagne at the park or the beach where the ceremony is held. Alternatively you could book a restaurant and ask your guests to pay for their own meal instead of bringing a gift. You could have a coffee and cake affair. I think that anyone who comes to your wedding should be happy to witness you saying your vows and be happy with whatever you decide to do as far as a celebration goes. If you decided to have a bring your own picnic in the park type affair and people didn’t like it, I would suggest that maybe it is for the best if they didn’t come to the wedding anyway.

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What do you think about a ceremony only wedding? Have you been to one? Would you consider one?

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A huge shout out to the guys at Vision House Photography for the use of their photos on this weeks blog. Check out their facebook page by clicking here. Also head over to their website to see more about them.

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Nell and Glenn

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Nell and Glenn were married at Mimosa Glen in Tooborac earlier this year. Mimosa Glen is not traditionally a wedding venue per-se, it is a homestead that has been restored and there is some lovely accommodation on the property too. It is a stunning place! The views everywhere you looked were exquisite. The weather was a perfect 24 degrees. You couldn’t really ask for more.

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I’m not sure how many people believe in destiny, or that life will take you to a certain point at a certain time because that is exactly where you need to be. But for those of you who don’t believe, I’m not sure how else to explain what happened about 5 years ago.  Glenn, a lovely New Zealander, went to Ireland to look into his family history and then to work in Europe. Nell, a beautiful Australian lass, went to Ireland to do a similar thing. Glenn and Nell both start working for the same online poker company. Nell had been away from home for so long so Glenn, being an expat and a Kiwi, made her drawn to him. Her first impression of him was that he was quiet and handsome. There was a rumour around the workplace that Glenn was a party animal, which Nell now thinks is funny as it is not something that she would ever associate with Glenn. Glenn thought that Nell was very friendly and easy to talk to. He thought she was loud and brash and he really liked talking to her.

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Nell and Glenn shared their vows in front of about 80 guests, they had people fly in from all around the world, the US, Ireland and New Zealand just to mention a few. Nell looked amazing, her dress and 1920’s inspired veil suited her perfectly. The attendants all wore a lovely green hue, that complemented the brown of the guys suits. They stood on top of a beautiful big rock with 3 attendants each. One of Nell’s bridesmaids,  Susan, wrote a song for the occasion and after Susan came down the aisle she took her place at the microphone and sang the rest of the girls into the ceremony site. Susan also sang while Nell and Glen signed their paper work and when they had been presented as the newly married couple and went through the most magnificent confetti shower that you have ever seen.

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When I asked what they loved most about the other, Nell said that was really hard to answer, like when someone asks what is your favourite movie or favourite fruit. But she did say that she really loves Glenn’s nature, that he is honest, kind and gentle, he is quiet and not contrived. Glen said that he loves all of who Nell is. He loves her conviction, her drive and loves her sensitivity and caring nature. Being with Nell has always felt like where he is meant to be.  Glenn said that when Nell sets her sights on getting something done, she is determined and driven to achieve what she sets out to do. Nell said that Glenn is true to himself, he doesn’t pretend to be anything he is not.  They love spending time at home in each others company. They love bad zombie or horror and post apocalyptic movies, Video games, playing with and annoying their dog Greta, wandering around new places and eating great food together, whether it is going out for dinner or breakfast. They love to chat over a nice meal with a glass of wine.

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Greta didn’t miss out on any of the festivities. She was there staying at the homestead too. On the day she had a beautiful floral collar. She made her grand entrance walking up to where Glenn was waiting for Nell. It was such a lovely moment as she did it all on her own. She spent most of the ceremony up on the rock with Nell and Glenn while they became husband and wife. Nell and Glenn wrote their own beautiful vows that reflected their feelings wonderfully.  Nell even quoted Dumbledore, saying “Let us step into the night and pursue that flighty temptress – adventure”.

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What a perfect day in the most lovely setting, with some of the loveliest people that you could ever meet. I never take for granted that I get to be a part of these wonderful ceremonies and to be right there when people get to make the most sacred promises to one another.  Another amazing wedding of people that I feel lucky that I got to know.

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A very big Thank you to Andrew Hardy Photography for all of the stunning images from Nell and Glenn’s wonderful day. You can check out his website here, or his blog about the day by clicking here, or go and follow him on facebook  too.  Also have a look at the Mimosa Glen website, and see all that the property has to offer.

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Married at first sight

 

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A few weeks ago, on channel 9, Married at First Sight aired. I really wasn’t sure what it was all about. I had seen the advertisements for it and to be honest it made me angry. So I really wanted to know what it was all about. I had to watch it even if it made me more angry.

The ads led me to believe that these couples were to be married when they hadn’t even met. I wasn’t impressed. For many reasons.

Firstly, all of the talk that they were going on about that it was like other arranged marriages. I’m not to sure how people feel about arranged marriages and if they work, but I believe that most of the time when arranged marriages occur it is to do with the culture of the people getting married.

Secondly, I was confused as to how these people would be married. What about the ‘Notice of Intended Marriage’ and all of the other things that are required for a legal marriage. This annoyed me on many levels. As a celebrant, I believe that the ceremony and the promises that are made during a ceremony are special, sacred and shouldn’t be taken lightly. I was concerned that this show would be making light of this moment, or asking people that have never met, to make sacred promises to a perfect stranger.

One of the things that really bothered me is that something like this could be advertised and made to look like these people are actually getting married the first time that they meet. We live in a country where not everyone has the right to marry the person that they love, but we can make a show where two people who have never met can really ground my gears. Really? What part of this isn’t rubbing it in the face of all those people who do not have the right to marry their partner. To me it was poor taste. I thought how can we have a show where people marry who don’t know of each other and have never met, how can we let this show make a mockery out of marriage.

THEN I WATCHED THE SHOW.

OK, so it’s not a legal marriage. I feel that this wasn’t explained enough. It was kind of brushed over a couple of times and maybe the celebrants involved made it clear during the ceremonies and it was just edited out. Who knows, but lets give them the benefit of the doubt. I just thought that it was a bit rich. I’m not sure how I would have felt about doing the show if I was invited to do it, but I just wonder how the celebrants involved feel asking these people to make promises to people that they have never met, when usually the promises that they help people share are between people that are in love.

I like that there are experts matching people with potential partners and that they are using numerous different methods to do this. I like that the people that they are matching up so far seem to be people that are suited to one another and all of these things are great. It makes for an interesting television show. I just don’t know how I feel about these people ‘getting married’, I understand that they are getting these couples to move in together and live as a married couple, who doesn’t like a big party and what better way to meet all of the other sides family and friends, but do they need to make them fake married?

Have you watched it?  What do you think?

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Thank you to Love Journal Photography for the photos on the blog this week. Check out their website and facebook pages for more of their work.

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Bathroom survival kits

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More and more I am seeing bathroom survival kits at weddings. They are lovely bathroom details and I think incredibly thoughtful. Lots of couples are suppling a survival type kit in the bathroom at their weddings including all sorts of things that a guest may need. From pain killers, to safety pins, to hairspray and tampons.

They are  such a wonderful idea and I have seen them being put to use even in the relatively short time that I am at a wedding. One thing that you would want to take note of, or even measure, is what sort of space is going to be in the bathrooms at the venue. Especially if you are buying baskets or something to store your survival kits in. You don’t want to be making a trip to exchange the wrong size baskets the day before the wedding. Also check if you have exclusive use of these bathrooms or not. If you are having any children attending the wedding, you may want to look at how high up these survial kits are going to be. You don’t want any of the kids getting their hands on the panadol!

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Some suggestions for what to put in these kits are:

Ladies Bathrooms

* pain killers (panadol or advil)

* safety pins / mini sewing kit

* hairspray

* mints / breath spray/ dental floss

* spray deodorant

* tissues

* bandaids

* moisturiser

* cotton buds

* comb or brush / bobby pins / hair ties

* pads/ tampons

* stockings

* party feet

* Hydrolite/ Immodium tablets

* rennie / milanta tablets

* nail file / clear nail polish/ nail polish remover

* make up/ blotting sheets

* lint brush

* sunscreen/ bug spray

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Mens Bathroom

* pain killers (panadol or advil)

* safety pins / mini sewing kit

* hairspray/ hair wax

* mints / breath spray/ dental floss

* spray deodorant

* tissues

* bandaids

* moisturiser

* cotton buds

* comb or brush

* Hydrolite/ Immodium tablets

* rennie / milanta tablets

* shoe polish

* lint brush

* sunscreen/ bug spray

Obviously this list could go on forever and you are only limited by your imagination, budget and the size of the bench or basket. There are plenty of great little poems that you can use to ask your guests to use what they need and leave the rest for the other guests. Or you could simply have a little sign that says ‘with complements from the newlyweds’.

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What do think about bathroom survival kits, have you been to a wedding that has had one? Are you planning to have one on your special day? Is there any essentials that you think must be included?

A big Thank you to Untamed Images for the use of their photos on the blog this week. Check out what they have been up to recently on facebook or you can click here to go to their website.

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