Traditionally, or should I say in the past, the man purchased a ring and then asked the love of his life to marry him –
how things have changed! Obviously this still happens but it is not always the case. Some people choose to make the decision together and skip the cliché routine. Sometimes a man chooses to propose with a ‘toy’ ring or no ring at all, and the couple shop for a ring together. This seems to becoming more and more popular amongst couples, especially if the groom to be is apprehensive about choosing the ring that the love of his life will hopefully wear for the rest of her life. The groom to be could be quite attuned to his partners tastes and buy the ring on his own accord. Alternatively the bride to be may leave certain ‘hints’ for her partner – a circled ring in a catalogue etc. It can be quite a task to choose the right ring, with a toy ring symbolising engagement or no ring, the proposal can still be a surprise and your partner can choose an appropriate ring.
Sometimes people want to buy an antique ring or use a past or present family members ring, possibly having it re-modeled. Some couples opt for no engagement ring and get a wedding band, or choose to have one ring that suited to their personal atheistic. If the bride to be doesn’t wear a lot of jewellery, it can be hard to decide on an engagement ring or wedding band they will feel comfortable wearing.
There are no hard and fast rules about rings, especially as a ring isn’t necessary. Some couples choose not to exchange wedding rings in their ceremony at all. Some people exchange rings but do not choose to have any extra wording or promises in the ceremony. I have done a couple of weddings where I simply mention that an exchange will take place and give them a few moments to do so. Alternatively others wish to say a few words to each other about their promise of love and what the rings represent in regards to their relationship.
Whether there is a ring or not does it really matter? What matters is the love that the bride and groom share. The size of the diamond or other precious stones doesn’t compare to the love shared. What I love most about engagement and wedding rings is what they represent – the love that two people share and the desire to be together, through the good and bad that life will bring.